When Choosing A Gender

This is such a delicate topic. But we hope that you will read through and give it some thought.

Can we choose our own destiny or is it chosen for us?  Many people believe in predestination. Even the Bible speaks of predestination, here are only two. 

 Romans 8:29-30 says, “For those God foreknew He also predestined to be conformed to the image of His Son, that He might be the firstborn among many brothers and sisters. And those He predestined, He also called; those He called, He also justified; those He justified, He also glorified” 

Ephesians 1:5 says this, “In love He predestined us to adoption as sons to Himself through Jesus Christ according to the good pleasure of His will”

So can we just roll the dice and see what becomes of our lives? We all want to be in control of our lives. But how we live our lives affects those around us, and not only those around us, but like a ripple effect, all those who come in contact with them also. You see it is like having a domino effect in not only others lives now, but the future. You know the saying, “What if I had done this instead of that?”  Albert Einstein explains Quantum Mechanics as there are many options to the same action. With each choice you make you create your life, and that life will affect many other lives. You see life affects life. No one is an island to himself. Everything someone does either affects the good of all, or the bad of  all,  like declaring war on a country affects the whole world. So what does this have to do with choosing a gender? Well, there is a thing called the balance of life. They have found that there is an equal ratio of boys and girls being born.  So what happens if we change that ratio? How does that change the world and how does that change your life? Will you ever know the what ifs, if you had not made that decision? 

It’s like the poem “Two Roads” by Robert Frost. The poet writes how he wished that he could have traveled both roads, but he had to decide which way to go, so he took the road less traveled by, and that it made all the difference. We can not follow the crowd. There is a reason for all things and as a very wise king once said, “There is nothing new under the sun.” You have to play the hand that is dealt to you, like poker. What you think is a bad hand can turn out to be a good hand if you play your cards right. You see in life there is no such thing as chance, no such thing as luck, there is a reason for all things, if we can see it or not. There is an order to all of creation and a balance, and we have done so many things in life that have changed the balance of nature, the weather, and well, to almost everything, and it has caused us many problems. Yes, we have made bad choices and as the saying goes, “What you sow you reap” and we are now reaping the fruit of our ways. So choosing a gender can also go either way, good or bad.


Sometimes it is better to stay with what you know, and if life is predestined, then there is a reason for all things. But there is a topic of gender where one does have to make a choice  and that is  with those who are what is called “Intersexuality or Intersex” for short.

Intersex means someone’s born with sex characteristics (such as body parts) that are different to what is thought to be “typical” for a male or female body. Most people with intersex variations grow up to identify with their sex assigned at birth – this is often called “cisgender”. Being intersex can be confused with being transgender. Transgender means someone whose gender identity is different from their assigned sex at birth.

According to the Kids Helpline for Teens 13-17, it tells us this, intersex variations are not always obvious at birth. For some people, they might not be obvious until later in life, like during puberty or if they’re trying to have children. Intersex variations are somewhat common, only .37%- 1.7 of births. 

An intersex person has the right to tell you what gender they are and what they should be called. The bodies of people with intersex variations are commonly seen as different, which puts them at risk of discrimination, abuse and harm. The most concerning type of discrimination and harm that intersex people face is being pressured or forced to have medical interventions to make their bodies look more “typically” female or male. Lots of people with intersex variations are worried that they are “abnormal.” If a friend tells you they have an intersex variation, don’t make them feel worse by acting shocked, amazed, or sorry for them. Instead ask supportive questions like, ‘How do you feel about it?’

According to Wikipedia:

 Surgeons pinpointed intersex babies as a

 “Social Emergency” when born. 

Early intervention can help avoid gender identity confusion.

From early history, societies have been aware of intersex people. Some of the earliest evidence is found in mythology: the Greek historian Diodorus Siculus wrote of the mythological Hermaphroditus in the first century BC, who was “born with a physical body which is a combination of that of a man and that of a woman.”

Jewish Scholars have to say this about intersex people. The creation of male and female has the Jewish scholars believing that this generic reference is because God created the first human to be both male and female as one being. The rabbis


came up with the idea that Adam was created as an androgyne (an androgynous person, both sexes in one individual) by comparing the creation of humans in Genesis 1 with the creation of Eve from Adam’s rib in Genesis 2: whereas in Genesis 1 it says they were created together, in Genesis 2 Eve is created from Adam. So to resolve this, they posited that Adam was created both male and female in one body, and that in Genesis 2 God separated Eve and Adam into two beings. This is found in Bereshit Rabbah 8:1: 

The myth of the androgyne may not be as far-fetched as it appears on the surface. An extremely rare anomaly during developmental stages in some species of animals causes them to become “bilateral gynandromorphs”: half of their body structure is male and the other half is female. These animals appear as if someone cut a male and female organism in half and sewed them seamlessly together. These gynandromorphs differ from Hermaphrodites because they contain both male and female body structure combined rather than just male and female sexual organs. 

So people who are born this way should not be considered strange or weird. They are people and should not be bullied. Everyone in their own way is different and no two people are alike even if they are twins. We must respect each other. As the Bible says, “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.”

If you need help call Kids Helpline at 1-800-55-1800 

or visit the “First Aid Kit”

on this website: safetyzoneforteens.com

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